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So I need advice my husband and I have been married for alittle over a year and he still hasn't grasped that a marriage

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MasseyGirl22

MasseyGirl22 asked 19 weeks ago

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So I need advice my husband and I have been married for alittle over a year and he still hasn't grasped that a marriage is a partnership not a one man band with a groupy on the side (referring to me as the groupy) and our big problem is that he won't let me worry about things that deal with money or that affect our family because I'm a stay at home mom and don't make money and our other big problem is when he and I fight he says hurtful things trying to hurt me and it isn't until after our fight and then an hour or so that he realizes what he said was horrible and tries to apologize for it. Now we do have a kid and I don't wanna leave him at all because I do love him and I know he loves me but how do I work on this problem with him so that he can try and fix it without getting mad and starting another fight (and I know the first 2-3 years of marriage are the hardest for most couples)

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Mari

Have you tried talking to him about how you feel?

MasseyGirl22

I have and it will go well for the first maybe 10 min if that and then one of us will say the wrong thing (most likely me) and then one will raise their voice and then the other will and yeah because we both have tempers and we are both bull headed but this needs to be fix because our fights are starting closer and closer together and I don't want our son to grow up in a hostile investment

Liz

I am in a relationship with a word sensitive guy where one word when I am trying to explain my feelings will upset him and lead to a fight. Best thing to do is say "please hear me out when I explain my feelings to you, I don't want to hurt your feelings but have you understand what's going on it my head" Another good thing to do is when talking about a sensitive subject that would lead to an argument is say the word "we need to change a few things and or work on things" Try to stay away from the word "you " when you are discussing what upsets you.

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