How to Prepare Yourself for Surrogacy?

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Planning a surrogacy is a big decision in itself. Intended parents need to prepare themselves mentally, physically and financially to take this big step in their life. Preparing before starting the process of surrogacy makes you strong and capable of tackling any ups and downs during this period. The female partner also needs to prepare her body for the egg retrieval process.

Let’s Discuss in More Detail About How Should Parents Prepare for Surrogacy Babies:

Although surrogacy is sheer bliss to the parents who are unable to bear their own child it is not an easy decision for them. A lot of things go in the mind of the intended parents. They can struggle with the decision of whether to opt for the surrogacy or not. Surrogacy calls for many steps for the intended parents and for the surrogate too. The Intended Parents have much to prepare themselves as far as the surrogacy is concerned. If you are having any second thoughts or you are not able to make any decision about the surrogacy process then you have your chance of getting the best advice from Ela Specialist. Because of some complications with the mother/ father or both of them, childless couples are driven to opt for surrogacy. Your preparation and acceptance towards another woman carrying your baby would only make it easy for you.

In addition to the legal aspects, preparing yourself mentally and emotionally is the basic first step that you take as a couple while getting ready for surrogacy. Once the decision of surrogacy has been taken then taking care of the financial facet also becomes the need. If your doctor has recommended you surrogacy and you are not prepared well for the same, then it’s the time to rethink again and work on the points, which might come into your way of surrogacy. Surrogacy is an ART process, which can help you in conceiving your own child. Instead of thinking about its cons you should have a positive outlook on this to start your journey of parenthood.

1. Consult your doctor

Your every step should be a calculated one with the proper consultation from the doctor. No decision should be taken without discussion and advice from the doctor. Their approval is absolutely a must before taking any medication or starting any treatment. So make sure that you have had the necessary checkups done before beginning your journey of surrogacy.

consult your doctor

2. Emotional Preparation

After learning about the inability of not becoming a parent, the couple usually breaks down and loses hope. They not only suffer from the social pressure but they also have the fear of being judged. To keep things going, they need to ignore the social pressure and think about starting their new journey to have a baby.

Intended parents have to emotionally prepare themselves with the fact that another woman or surrogate mother will be carrying and delivering their baby. They have to build a healthy relationship with the surrogate and will have to provide her with all the amenities. Make sure that she qualifies in all the screening aspects and is healthy to carry your baby for the nine months. Of course, the legal contracts will be involved too.

If you are using the donor egg with surrogacy, then you need to prepare yourself emotionally strong and need to maintain the connectivity with the baby so that accepting the baby does not become an ordeal in the later period of time.

3. Physical Preparation

You know that you would be welcoming a new baby into your home but you have to be aware of certain points to be able to handle it better on the physical level. When we talk about the preparation that goes at the “physical level”, it involves medication required for the process of egg retrieval. The female partner is given hormonal injections and fertility drugs, which increase her egg count. This could be a tedious process and needs patience and perseverance at the end of intended parents.

physical preparation for surrogacy

During the Gestational surrogacy, the ovum and the sperms are taken from the parents only for the embryo formation. If the couple is infertile and is not producing enough eggs or sperms, then they have to undergo a diet plan and a course of the medicine, which will enhance their sperm count and egg count. Even if the female partner has good egg reserve then there might be chances that the eggs are not maturing and are being destroyed before that. In such cases, donor egg is being used.

The same goes for men. Men can be infertile too and to treat infertility they also have to take some injections like HGH (Human Growth Hormone). HGH increases testosterone levels, which in turn increases the sperm count. Before going for these options, you should consult the doctor. So make yourself ready for the upcoming treatment.

3. Stay in Tune With Friends and Family

Despite the fact that you have opted for it, surrogacy still remains an unfamiliar practice and this is the reason why you would need the support of your friends and family. It may, at some point, become a necessity to educate your near and dear ones about surrogacy as a medical technology as it may not be seen under the same light by one and all.

4. Manage stress

Remember that along with the surrogate mother, you are also a part of the process and your bodies too will bear the impact of medications and specific processes of stimulation of ovaries, trigger shots and egg retrieval. You need to try your best to avoid stress at all costs. Following are the ways that can help you beat the stress:

  • Have positive thoughts about your choice
  • Develop habits that make you feel good about yourself
  • Spend quality time with one another
  • Keep yourself well-informed of the processes to come

After the successful pregnancy, the surrogate receives the required monthly compensation, prenatal care, medicines and other required materials during the course of pregnancy.

manage stress for surrogacy

5. Stay Legally Compliant

Surrogacy has been legal in India since 2002 and is being practiced by the common man as well as celebrities. At the time of opting for surrogacy, you have to know all the procedures and laws. In India, the laws are much different from other countries. Keep all the paperwork complete and ready to be presented. The contract would be signed between the intended parents and the surrogate mother. The contract will include the ownership of the baby as well as the compensation rights of the surrogate mother.

Once the baby is born, the surrogate mother does any have any right over the child.

6. Financial Preparation

Another important part that demands your attention and through planning is finance. You should have proper knowledge about the expenses that you will have to bear throughout the nine months of pregnancy. The intended parents are expected to provide complete care, medications, and compensation to the surrogate mother and this is in addition to the IVF treatment and medications associated with it. In case you have financial constraints, getting the medical loan can also be a viable option.

financial preparation

7. Post Embryo Transfer

The surrogacy procedure does not take that much time once all the legal formalities are completed. After the IVF process is completed in the surrogacy, the surrogate mother should regularly visit the doctor and continue with the prescribed medicines. This is done to make sure that the baby and the mother are in the prime health always. She will also be prescribed some hormonal medicines, which she needs to take regularly during her pregnancy. Intended parents can meet her time to time to make sure that surrogate and their baby are in good health.

So, if you are taking your infertility as an irreversible process then you are wrong. With advanced treatments like TESA, MESA, IVF, ICSI and many other, a couple can now become parents. Call our Ela specialist on +917899912611 to know about various other treatment options.

Dr. Rachna Verma

About The Author

Infertility Specialist, Endocrinologist Dr. Rachna Verma

Dr. Rachna Verma is a gynecologist and obstetrician presently specializing in Infertility management, IUI, IVF, Hormonal Disturbance Management. Dr. Rachna has completed MBBS from SP Medical College, Bikaner in 1992 and DGO from RNT Medical College in 1996. Then, Dr. Rachna pursued DNB in Obstetrics and Gynecology and MNAMS in Obstetrics and Gynecology from Sir Gangaram Hospital in 1999 and 2000 respectively. She is also a member of National Academy of Medical Sciences. Presently, Dr. Rachna is practicing at Gynae and Imaging Point and Fortis Flt Lt Rajan Dhall Hospital, Delhi. For more information, visit



Rita Rai

I think emotional preparation is more important than physical preparation in case of any treatment. For surrogacy also being emotionally able to see your child being born by another woman is difficult for some women.

Nov. 19, 2018, 1:09 a.m. 4.5


Suchita Gupta

Even if you are going for surrogacy, then also the intended mother has to be prepared for the egg retrieval process. I myself have the experience of this, so I can say that there are a lot of preparations which one needs to be done.

Nov. 4, 2018, 4:46 p.m. 4.5



For my sister surrogacy proved to be the best and successful option. She now has a cute girl with the help of surrogacy. She didn't face any problems in the treatment. Her baby is now four years old.

Oct. 29, 2018, 6:54 a.m. 4.5


Rohit Sahu

Financial preparation is very important in the case of surrogacy, as it is really an expensive process. Medical loans will be helpful.

Oct. 18, 2018, 10:10 a.m. 5.0


Sumrit Shahi

Surrogacy is really an expensive treatment. One will go for surrogacy after they have tried every other option and didn't get any success. However, it is true that the success rate of surrogacy is also very high. In these case intended parents should be prepared very well that they don't feel any...

Sept. 2, 2018, 5:23 p.m. 5.0


Shyamsundar Nuregesan

Aug. 21, 2018, 3:34 p.m. 4.5

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