How to Find Surrogate Mother

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Medically Reviewed by Dr. Deepika Tiwari - MS, MBBS on 30 Mar 2019 - Written by Dr. Chitwan Dubey - MS, MBBS - Grammatically Approved by Dr. Kavita Jaggi Agrawal - MS, MBBS

At the time of choosing the best surrogate, couples should make sure to check the medical reports and earlier delivery reports of the surrogate before signing up the contract with her. Couples can always take help of an agency to find the right candidate based on specific selection criteria. Couples are suggested to create a questionnaire to discuss with the candidate before selecting them as their Surrogate.

A surrogate mother is a woman who agrees to bear a child for another woman who is incapable to conceive herself. In other words, a surrogate is a substitute mother that conceives, gestates and delivers a baby on behalf of another woman who is consequently to be seen as the real mother of the child. (1)

In this article, we will look at:

If the intended parents consider surrogacy as a means to build their family, it would be better to understand all the pros and cons of surrogacy. There are many resources that exist to help intended parents understand all facets of the surrogacy process, including surrogacy agencies, fertility specialists and IVF hospitals. It would also be advantageous to speak with a former intended parent or an experienced surrogate mother to help in the decision-making process.

Finding a Surrogate Mother

People may find a family member or a friend to be a surrogate for them. This greatly reduces the cost of surrogacy. However, everyone is not able to find a woman to volunteer to be a surrogate mother for him or her. In such conditions, most people find a surrogate through agencies. (2)

What do surrogate agencies do?

Agencies are very helpful and make sure that surrogates are selected on the basis of psychological evaluations and other medical tests to ensure the best chance of healthy and successful deliveries. They also solve all legal matters concerning the two parties. (3) There are many surrogate agencies that will match intended parents to surrogates. When choosing an agency, it is very important to research the history of the agency. Significant questions to ask the agency include how surrogates are screened and their history. It would be better to speak to former clients of the agency. 

Most fertility clinics request that both the intended parents and the surrogate undergo a psychological evaluation prior to entering into a surrogacy agreement. (4) Intended parents seeking surrogacy through assisted reproductive technology (ART), and the surrogate, both shall enter into a surrogacy agreement, which shall be legally enforceable. (5)

A set of questions that intended parents should ask:

1. What questions one should ask to the surrogate agency?

  • Is the agency responsive to clients or not? Are they prompt in returning calls and e-mails?
  • Is there more than one person who can respond if the primary contact is not responding or busy?
  • Do all the members of the firm operate as a team? (6)

2. What questions should be asked to the surrogate mother?

  • Do they meet the surrogate in person before selection?
  • Does the agency evaluate the home environment of the surrogate or the screening is limited solely to a telephone call or interview in office?
  • Do they perform reference checks? (6)

Some intended parents choose to search for a surrogate without any help. In this case, it becomes important that both intended parents and potential surrogates obtain legal advice before making any agreements or signing any contracts. A clear contract is very useful in preventing many potential conflicts during the process. Intended parents should also research the history of the potential surrogate to make sure that there is no cause for concern.

What are the qualities of a surrogate mother?

There are some qualities that the surrogacy agency and the intended parents expect from a surrogate mother. We have listed some of the qualities here:

  • A surrogate should be in good physical and mental health
  • She should have carried and delivered at least one baby
  • She should have had pregnancies that were all free of complications and were full-term
  • The surrogate should be less than 43 years of age. Some clinics also accept an older woman in certain conditions while others have younger age cut-offs for surrogates mothers
  • She should be in a stable living situation
  • She should not smoke or abuse alcohol (7)

Hope this was a helpful article for those couples who are going for surrogacy or consider it as an option. For any query or suggestion call Elawoman at the given number: +918929020600.

Written by

Dr. Chitwan Dubey

Obstetrician, Gynecologist
Dr. Chitwan Dubey is a leading Obstetrician and IUI Expert currently working at SevenHills Hospital in Andheri, East Mumbai. She has been practicing in the same field for over a decade and her areas of expertise are Endometriosis, Ectopic Pregnancies, Fibroids, Total Lap Hysterectomies, and Fertility Enhancing Diagnostic etc. She completed MBBS from Rant's Medical College in 2004 followed by MS in Obstetrics and Gynaecology from Mumbai University in 2006. Dr. Chitwan Dubey is an honoured member of Indian Medical Association (IMA). For contact details of Dr. Chitwan Dubey visit


  1. ^ Surrogate Motherhood - NCBI, 29 March 2019
  2. ^ Surrogate Versus Gestational Carrier - Penn Medicine, 29 March 2019
  3. ^ Indications for Surrogacy - Wiki Pedia, 29 March 2019
  4. ^ Surrogacy Myths and Facts - Resolve, 29 March 2019
  5. ^ Surrogacy in India - International Journal of Medical and Health Research, 29 March 2019
  6. ^ The Surrogacy Process - HRC, 29 March 2019
  7. ^ Surrogacy Process - HRC, 29 March 2019
  8. ^ How Do I Choose a Surrogate Mother - Healthy Women, 29 March 2019
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Simran Ahuja

In my opinion, finding a surrogate through an agency would be a better choice. I have seen a friend who has spent a lot of time in finding the right surrogate and was not successful in it. At last, he finally went to take the help of the agency. So, it would be better if you take professional assis…

Nov. 17, 2018, 9:27 a.m. 5.0

Anil Kumar

The best and most important question to ask a surrogate is that why they chose to be one. This question will help you know about the mental status of the woman.

Sept. 19, 2018, 2:03 p.m. 5.0

Satya Jha

Finding surrogates through surrogacy agency would be a preferable choice. You will not feel any burden on you. Also, there will not be any risk associated with the surrogate.

Aug. 12, 2018, 11:56 a.m. 5.0

Mr. and Mrs. Trishala

We searched for a surrogate by ourselves. It was a very tiring and time-consuming process. At last, we got our surrogate. Now, finally, we can get started with the procedure.

July 17, 2018, 1:09 p.m. 4.5

Ekta Mathijia

I trusted Ela for the whole process of surrogacy. They helped me in finding a surrogate and also helped us with the essential steps in the procedure.

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Ela helped us find the best doctor for surrogacy and we had a pleasant experience with our surrogacy procedure.

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