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How to conceive successfully as a Same Sex Couple? Most common FAQs

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If you are thinking how to conceive as a Same Sex Couple, then you need to know that with assisted reproductive technology it has become much easier to conceive than before. Sperm donor recruitment and Artificial Insemination are important steps in conception process for same sex couples.

When the same-sex couple decides to start a happy family, surely they have a lot of doubts and questions in their mind. The absence of a sperm-maker in a relationship can complicate the whole process of getting pregnant or conceiving, however, nothing is impossible when it comes to science! It's tough to decide that how to get pregnant? With the world is inching towards the acceptance for lesbian couples and on the same hand the growth of science and technology, it has become much easier and less cumbersome for the same-sex couple to give birth to the biological child. Before starting a family here's all you need to know about same-sex conception and chances of getting pregnant.

1. Decision making is very important

In the case of same-sex couples, the couple has a choice to decide before planning pregnancy or conception as to which of the two will carry the child for next 9 month and to decide how to get pregnant? Weighing each partner’s mental, emotional and physical needs, carefully think and decides so that your decision may lead to a positive conception. How to get pregnant is tough to decide but once the couple has decided that, who will be the future 'mom-to-be', then start tracking the fertility window and cycles and your ovulation dates, including cervical mucus, basal body temperature. You should closely track the ovulation days as many things depend on your ovulation. With this, you should be aware of pregnancy symptoms and some good pregnancy tips.

2. Who will be the sperm donor?

The next need is the sperm donor, who will be the sperm donor? There are now few different options here. You can either use the anonymous sperm of sperm donor from a bank or take the sperm of a known sperm donor (someone you believe and trust). Though both the options are feasible enough. It is advised if you carefully check the genetic history of the sperm donor for traits.

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It is seen that some couples choose a donor for the first biological child and then continue using the same donor sperm for all the children. In this way, if the second partner decides to get pregnant the second time then all the children will be biologically linked to each other. So, choose wisely and make sure that you consult with a lawyer and have a strong agreement finalized before the process starts. 

3. Once the sperm situation is all set to go, you can decide on any of the following methods of insemination:

At-Home Insemination:

Home insemination is a great option for those who want an alternative choice to get insemination at a fertility clinic. This option is usually the cheapest because you will not be paying for the services of a medical professional. Below are the steps:

Step 1:Set up the area where you want the sperm donor to use. If you are using a cup, open it, make sure it is right side out and place it on a clean and hygiene paper towel. If you are using a jar instead of a cup, set out a clean and neat jar with the lid. Ask if he needs the internet connection or net connection, this may be something he prefers for assistance in the procedure. 

Step 2: Set up the area where you are going to use for the insemination. Make sure you have all of your equipment in a good order and everything is hygiene and clean. If you are traveling, pack everything up in the bag that can be carried feasibly. Set up a tray with a towel, syringe and any other equipment you need while doing the procedure.

Step 3:When your sperm donor arrives, make him as comfortable as possible. Show him the place where you want him to d the things and what receptacle to use. We recommend you to use a cup because the sperm donor can deposit his donation directly into the cup and to eliminate the need to transfer sperm via syringe.

Step 4:If you are using a jar for sperm donation, wait for 10 minutes for the semen to liquefy easily. Keep the sperm in a warm and dark place nicely. Sperm thrives best at body temperature, so under the covers against your skin, it is a good place for the jar to be kept. Once the semen has been liquefied, draw it up into the syringe straight. (Don't draw it in or push it out too quickly, as you don't want to damage the sperm)

Step 5: Lay down with your hips raised up on a pillow and relax your body. If you can, get yourself a little worked up (sexually stimulated).

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1- Cup: Fold the Cup in half with the semen at the bottom, pinching the top together. Insert it slowly into your vagina, keeping the top pinched close. Once halfway in or more, push it the rest of the way in by the plastic rim.

2- Syringe: Insert the syringe as far as it will go (if you feel it hit your cervix, back out little slightly).

3- Depress the syringe slowly in. It is a very good idea to leave the syringe inside for 10-15 minutes to keep the semen close to the cervix. Once slowly removed, place it on the paper towel easily. 

Step 6: Lay back with your hips still raised on a pillow for at least 15 minutes. This is a great time to imagine the formation of your child inside you. Some books recommend that you should your body every 10 minutes to swirl the semen around the cervix, but it's up to you if you feel this is necessary (if you are using a Cup, this is not going to change anything really). You should be aware of pregnancy symptoms and best pregnancy tips. Pregnancy symptoms can help you understand many things and pregnancy tips will help you hold your pregnancy better. 

Step 8: If using a Cup, make sure that you remove it in about 12 hours or before. If you are inseminating in the evening, the easiest thing to do is leave it in overnight and remove it in the early morning.

Dr. Neha Gupta

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Infertility Specialist, IVF Specialist Dr. Neha Gupta
Gurgaon

Dr. Neha Gupta is an Obstetrician and Gynaecologist in Gurgaon. She has been practicing for many years now. Her rich experience in Normal Vaginal Delivery, Intrauterine Insemination (IUI), In-Vitro Fertilization (IVF), Hysterectomy and Tubectomy makes her the most preferred names in Gurgaon. She has acquired MBBS in 2004, DNB from National Board of Examinations in 2009 and MS - Obstetrics and Gynaecology from Maulana Azad Medical College in 2009. She is a member of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, London. Dr. Neha Gupta has an expertise in Intrauterine Insemination and is practicing at Fortis Memorial Research Institute in Gurgaon. You can get the contact details of Dr. Neha Gupta at elawoman.com

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2.  How to detect ovulation instantly? - 5 smart ways to do it successfully  ovulation, Elawoman - 16/01/2019 13:01
3.  Things you must know about donating sperm for infertility treatment  sperm donor, Elawoman - 29/12/2018 16:12
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Priyanka Nagpal

Me and my mate are looking for a healthy sperm donor. Can you suggest us with the best place providing this facility?

Oct. 12, 2018, 10:20 p.m. 5.0

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Jaydeev Pal

After section 377 verdict in India, It will be quite useful to have this option for couples. Thanks for sharing the idea!

Oct. 11, 2018, 11:17 a.m. 4.5

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Debb Lina

Thanks for sharing this blog. I will try this and hope it works. Wish me luck!

Sept. 30, 2018, 10:27 p.m. 5.0

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Mamta Kapoor

What if the procedure didn't work? Can I try it again by myself or I should go to the fertility specialist for IUI.

Sept. 23, 2018, 9:45 p.m. 4.5

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Nicole Waldu

Informative article, the IUI procedure is described at its best. I would love sharing this to my sister, as she wants to conceive.

Sept. 12, 2018, 8:32 p.m. 5.0

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Priya Goragandhi

I think with advanced technology and science, it is quite easy to live in this world. Had this been stone age, we would never had our feet on moon and we could never find any means to get a baby other than natural methods. As far as environment is concerned, it's a shared responsibility and a sin...

Nov. 2, 2017, 3:40 p.m. 5.0

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Paradise D.

Not a normal environment for a child but this a tragic world we now live in. My opinion!

May 18, 2017, 1:43 p.m. 4.5

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