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How To Survive Baby Showers When You Are Infertile

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Learn how awkward baby showers can be when you are infertile and get essential tips on surviving baby showers during infertility.

One of the most common practices to celebrate an expected childbirth is Baby Shower. Though the term is new but the custom has been followed since ancient times. In India, rituals related with childbirth and pregnancy was performed, in form of organizing a party or function. Mostly women are invited to present gifts and have some fun games. Baby Showers are happy moments to enjoy but it can be a struggle for women dealing with infertility. Infertility is characterized by disability to attain pregnancy. The celebration of Baby Showers can be annoying for these women and people should be sensitive enough while inviting them in the get-together.

What are Baby Showers?

  • Baby Showers is a term used for a custom in which the expected birth of a child is celebrated.
  • It is celebrated by presenting gifts to the mother at a party or get-together.
  • Baby Showers is generally hosted by any of the close friends of the expectant mother. It is treated impolite to ask for gifts on behalf of their own family member.
  • Invitation for Baby Showers is given to women only. Gifts related to babies like diapers, prams, baby toys, bottles, blankets or bed sheets are given.
  • The Party Host can organize a short game for opening the gifts. ‘Baby Showers’ is a new term to denote the custom of celebrating expected childbirth but the custom is quite ancient.
  • ‘Baby Showers’ is a new term to denote the custom of celebrating expected childbirth, but the custom is quite old.

Baby Showers
The celebration was usually centered with performing rituals related to childbirth and pregnancy.  

Baby Shower is a custom celebrated in different countries like USA, Canada, India, Nepal, Brazil, Bangladesh, United Kingdom and Russia. It is now centered mostly with presenting gifts and organizing a party.

Why are Baby Showers Hard to Handle?

Baby Shower is a custom related to the celebration of expecting the birth of a child. And it is very obvious that it is hard to attend baby showers for those women who are dealing with infertility.

  • Infertility brings a feeling of isolation and despair. Getting pregnant and expecting a child is every woman’s ultimate dream. Shattering of this dream leads to loss of hope. Sometimes, women may feel shame on themselves. Meanwhile, an invitation to baby shower seems like a burden.
  • Baby Shower is a celebration and so it is a struggle for women dealing with fertility to handle such situation. They turn emotionally so weak that they cannot overcome their trauma of not getting pregnant. Though women are treated to be mentally stronger than men. But in this case, it a tough task for women to manage their emotions.
  • Infertility can turn into a wall of stress and tension between couples. In such case, attending a Baby Shower can elevate the height of this wall. It is really hard to manage the stress watching others expecting childbirth when you are in such sad state.

What Measures Can Be Taken?

Cry it aloud

We understand the cocktail of emotions you must be going through every time you are pressurized socially to attend a baby shower. Don’t be ashamed to be a crybaby and try crying your emotions aloud before going to the ceremony.

Get your answers prepared beforehand?

We understand how difficult it is for you to avoid uncomfortable questions such as “When we will visit you for baby shower?” or “How long you have been trying to get pregnant?”. You must be very annoyed getting these questions asked. So, why don’t you try preparing for the right answers beforehand to ease you out?

Indulge yourself in various activities during the Baby shower

Offer to help your friend in managing the guests or attending the catering during the baby shower. This way, you won’t need to face the uncomfortable questions being asked to you and will be able to distract yourself from the emptiness inside.

Be honest and reasonable

Use transparency and discuss with your friend clearly regarding why you don’t want to attend the baby shower. Put logical reasons and analyze the situation with her when you get invited.

Hope, this article has resolved your issue on how to survive baby showers when you are infertile. Follow Elawoman to get regular updates on fertility health and treatment.

Dr. Kavita Jaggi Agrawal

About The Author

Infertility Specialist, Obstetrician Dr. Kavita Jaggi Agrawal

Dr. Kavita Jaggi Agrawal is an obstetrician, gynecologist and infertility specialist who is providing her valuable expertise in the field of gynecology and infertility issues. She ensures that the patients receive the required fertility treatments well on time. Dr. Kavita specializes in the treatments like High Risk Pregnancy Care, In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) and Reproductive Medicine. Currently, she is practicing at Amit Jaggi Memorial Hospital, Vibhav Nagar, Agra.


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Shanti Verma

It was hard for me to attend my younger sister's baby shower as I couldn't handle those eyes staring at me looking for answers. It was hard to overcome that but we have too.

Oct. 13, 2018, 8:24 a.m. 5.0


Suman Karwa

I am infertile but I never abandon going out for baby showers, I try to forget my sorrow for a few hours in someone else happiness.

Jan. 29, 2018, 7:46 p.m. 4.5


Ronit Kumar

Getting emotional can help you for some hours but you have to be strong enough to handle it for whole life. You can take help from this article but at last, a family is the only one which can strengthen you.

Dec. 13, 2017, 1:13 p.m. 5.0


Rebecca Squires

There was a time when I used to lose my babies and people invited me to attend their baby showers. Inside my heart, I felt so bad that I actually cursed my life but somehow I managed to attend all those baby showers. My biggest strength was my husband, he held by my side and made me realize that ...

Oct. 28, 2017, 5:20 p.m. 4.5


Deepti Chopra

Now a days, people choose various themes for their baby showers. Co-ed Baby showers, celebrity themed baby showers, jungle theme, cartoon theme, food theme and many more are prevailing. Couples seems pretty much excited about their baby showers more than the birth of the baby.

Oct. 28, 2017, 5:20 p.m. 5.0

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